Reflections from the SingleMoms Team

7 Tips To Prepare for Single Motherhood By Choice

Seven Tips to Prepare for Single Motherhood By Choice

Preparing for Single Motherhood by ChoiceOk. You’ve made an important decision. An important decision that took a lot of thought, conversation and consideration.

You want to be a mom. Pretty straightforward. And you’re ready.

So here we go. What do you need to do to be as physically, physiologically, emotionally and otherwise ready to go on this new journey toward single motherhood by choice?

Here’s my wish list of what you would have in place for yourself before you come see me. Come see me anyway, but when you make the appointment, do these other things as well.

There’s a lot of information out there about what to do and what not to do when you’re trying to conceive. This list is one of actions and is one that I feel entirely comfortable sharing with you. Based on reliable research and data that has been published, these items can make a difference in a healthy conception, pregnancy and family.

How to Have a Healthy Pregnancy & Baby

1. Meet with our nutritionist- Carolyn Gundell, experienced in fertility nutrition for over a decade; she can help guide you towards best choices for a balanced food plan. Carolyn will also set you up with a good prenatal vitamin well before you try to become pregnant so as to ensure the healthiest possible pregnancy. A good prenatal vitamin is crucial especially for folic acid, which is needed for a healthy pregnancy and baby.

2. Continuing or starting moderate exercise – minimum of 30 minutes, 4-5 times a week. This doesn’t have to mean joining a gym and spending hours there. In fact, I don’t want you to do that. Just moderate exercise that encourages your metabolism to be up and active.

3. Sleeping at least seven hours a night, if not more. Focusing on sleep hygiene, turning off electronic devices at least an hour before going to bed. Going to sleep and waking at the same time ensures that you are at your healthiest.

4. Make an appointment with one of our acupuncturists, Amy Matton, MS, Lac, Jing Zhang, MS, Lac or Elaine M. Malin, MTCM, Lac, specially trained in fertility, conception and related health issues.

5. Being at a “normal” weight, as discussed with either me, Carolyn Gundell or your internist can improve your chances to become pregnant and decrease the possibility of pregnancy loss and pregnancy problems. A healthy BMI (body mass index) will set you up with a healthier pregnancy as well as lessening the chances that your child will have problems with obesity or diabetes.

6. Reproductive coaching with one of our counselors to find ways that are comfortable to discuss subjects such as, telling your family about the choice you are making, telling your child about their conception, whether you choose a donor who is willing to be identified and more. Take advantage of the two counselors that we have on board here at SingleMomsToBe in partnership with Reproductive Medicine Associates of CT (RMACT); Lisa Schuman, LCSW and Melissa Kelleher, LCSW have excellent skills to help you navigate some of the challenging issues that you may come across.

7. Things to avoid, yes there are a few. These are the same things you will need to avoid when you become pregnant, so perhaps just consider it practice; more than 2-3 cups of coffee a day; alcohol consumption should be discussed with your physician; recreational drugs are discouraged; cease smoking cigarettes, using a program if needed; artificial sweeteners; over or under exercising.

Your SingleMomsToBe Support Team

Single Motherhood by Choice Support Team

I applaud your courage and insight in making this life changing decision. We are here to help you and look forward to meeting you in person so that we can help you in taking the next steps on your journey towards single motherhood by choice.


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Dr. Spencer Richlin, Lead Reproductive Endocrinologist

For over 15 years, Dr. Spencer Richlin, a partner at RMACT, has enjoyed helping single female patients navigate their path to starting a family. He will recommend the best course of treatment that will lead to successfully taking home a baby, whether that treatment is minimally invasive or involves more medically-advanced forms of assisted reproductive techniques (ART).